Happy Thoughts on Being a Phonesex Op…
By Sascha On July 7th, 2008I am an adult phonesex worker. . I do Domination on Niteflirt, which means I help guys get off on the phone for money.
Unfortunately, my chosen profession is stigmatized by polite society.
The funny thing is, like most people, I grew up thinking that adult workers were the dregs of society, with no hope of redemption, objectified for their bodies, etc, etc, etc. I am sure all of you have heard the same sort of litany.
That is not the case with me. I grew up in an upper middle-class family. My father is a judge, my mother, a university professor. I went to private schools all my life, given swimming and dance lessons since I was a child. I have my parents’ hand-prints embedded on my back from them firmly but lovingly pushing me through my first 23 years of life. I graduated from said university with a terminal master’s in a science-related field, where I then worked in a professional middle management job for 3 years. I worked long hours, and made great money. Yuppie-ville, here I come.
As a phone Domme, I work even longer hours, and, for the time being, make less than half of what I used to.
So why do I do this? In my professional white-collar job, I had a boss over me, who persistently pressured me to get more out of the people that worked under me. And I had people under me, who complained about their jobs, and blamed me for their working conditions. It always felt like a no-win situation to me. By the time I quit, at the ripe old age of 26, I was taking 60 mgs of Prozac a day, drinking an entire 6-pack of Heinies more nights than not, as well as doing a host of “recreational” drugs to stay sane. Not a good combination.
And so I quit to be a phone Dommme. Now I do not take Prozac at all, I drink and drug rarely, and that’s pretty much it. I feel like less of a whore now than I ever have. I set my own hours, and my own price.
If I don’t like you or think we click, I don’t have to talk to you. I actually enjoy my work. I can get off several times a day if I want. Occasionally I do so with my callers. Most of the time it is by myself or with one of my RL pets.
If I want to take a day off, I do. I don’t work under fluorescent lighting, and I can go outside to walk/garden/bike/play whenever I want. Or if I just want to take an hour off to nap or fuck or masturbate, well that is always a good idea ;P
And I have realized that the money I make is commensurate with the work I do. I work very hard now, much harder than I ever have in my entire life. In my old job, working harder resulted in other people putting even more responsibility on my shoulders, not more pay.
Now I can see that there are so many more possibilities for me – so many things to learn, like SEO, coding, wordpress. Everything I learn helps me, and in turn, helps my little phone pets. I am just beginning to climb my way up the ladder… I love it.
I plan on doing this for a long long time




Good for you that you enjoy your work!
I worked the phones for awhile years ago and pretty much hated every minute of it.
My fiancee had just left me and I needed something to do to make ends meet and couldn’t take on another job (I was already working ridiculous hours at a bank and I was going to school full time).
I do love phone sex and I thought that because I enjoyed it so much and was so good at it that it would be a good move for me professionally.
I was wrong.
I quit as soon as I could afford to.
Anyway, more power to you!
I just may give you call =)
I would love it if you called, Desiree! I do love talking to women as well as men.
Phonesex is one of those things, you either love or you hate, I think…
I think you did the right decision in finding something else to do. Life is too short to do something you don’t absolutely love.